Artist Hedda Sterne, a Lion.
Photo-Illustration: by Preeti Kinha; Photos: Getty
Late Friday night, action planet Mars enters Mercurial Gemini, making it harder than ever to pursue your goals. You will be distracted in the middle of your work, quickly lose interest in new people or be tempted to change your strategy at the slightest provocation. A part of you may be trying to force yourself to stay the course. But you’ll be happier and more successful too if you can work with that energy instead of fighting it. Let your interests change and branch out; let your dreams grow and transform. You don’t need to stick to goals or plans you made in the past if they no longer make sense. Circumstances change and so do you.
You sometimes wonder if your life would be better if people took you more seriously or if you followed their rules better. You imagine that if you had less fun, then all doors would open to you. This week, the urge to mold yourself to meet someone else’s standards may be stronger than ever, but resist. It will do no good and will only serve to diminish what makes you wonderful, what makes you you. Don’t let the expectations of others determine the way you live. Your instincts are strong. Trust them.
Normally, you are in tune with your abilities and abilities. You know how much you can reasonably do and you know how long it will take. This week, however, everything will take more effort than you think. It’s not because something is wrong with you or because you have to work harder. You have been carrying a heavy load for a long time and you are tired. You are not a machine and should not be expected to be. For now, rest as much as you can and trust that your energy will return.
For better or for worse, your natural curiosity is hard to turn off. Your instinct is always to get the details of every interpersonal drama, to develop an opinion on every controversy, to learn everything you can about the people in your life. It’s not that you’re curious. You are curious about others, engaged in the world outside your head. This week, for your own sanity, remember that you can also leak some of it. Let the gossip float before you; accept that you will never have an informed opinion on every question. Your life will be interesting and much more peaceful anyway.
When your role, whether in your workplace, family, or community, is to be in charge, honoring your need to take (healthy) risks is nearly impossible. When everyone around you assumes you’ll be the voice of reason, it’s hard to express your reckless side. Because no matter how conscientious you are, you are also imaginative and you deserve to give voice to that part of yourself. This week, know that you don’t always have to give others what they want or expect. You must be true to yourself – your togetherself-complicated, contradictory — too.
It may sound silly or sentimental, but your main task this week is simply to be kind, both to others and to yourself. You’ll probably read this and think that it’s not enough, that you need to challenge yourself and push yourself. And you’re right, gentleness alone won’t be enough forever. However, there are seasons for everything. Just as every minute of the day can’t be spent working, every chapter of your life can’t be intense. Consider, at least, that you are in a period (however brief) of softness and see what happens if you act accordingly.
Even if you enjoy your social life, you may underestimate how much valuable it is. It feels more like a precious luxury, something separate (and potentially a distraction!) from the serious work of life: personal growth, career success, or the fight for a better future. This week, however, you will be reminded how important your people really are. Not the “important ones”, who have the power to help you achieve your goals, but those who populate your everyday world. There is magic in being part of a rich network of friends, family members, colleagues and neighbors who care about each other. If you put the people in your life first, you won’t regret it.
Sometimes boredom is necessary, even beneficial: the little daily chore of taking care of each other is not often exciting, but it is always worth it. Even the biggest projects, the ones you’re really passionate about, will involve tedious tasks, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But there are other types of sadness that you never need to accept. This week, you can refuse to rehash the same arguments over and over again, spend your free time with people you don’t respect, or read books and watch shows you find uninteresting because you think you “should.” Your time is yours; do not forget it.
It may be difficult for you to let others treat you with generosity. Experience has taught you that there are many people who cannot be trusted, offering friendship or support that comes with hidden conditions. But this week, true kindness will enter your life, and your (surprisingly difficult) job is to let it in. You need to let your guard down long enough to make connection possible, you need to approach others with an open heart. Not everyone will treat you right, but a lot of people will, and you might be surprised at the love they have to give you.
These days, you feel like you’re supposed to be good at everything, knowledgeable about everything, able to get along with everyone you meet. This pressure can come from your boss, your family or yourself, but regardless of the source, it is unreasonable. You don’t have to know or be everything. You just have to be yourself: a person, with your own set of skills, experiences and ideas. Give yourself permission to engage in what you are good at, what you enjoy most. It will be enough.
You are hyper aware of the brevity of life, of the limitation of our time on earth. In order to realize your grand ambitions, you know that you must use every day wisely in the service of your greatest goals. But this week, you will come up against the reality that no one can be constantly “on”. It is not possible to maintain complete control over your thoughts, your energy level, your concentration. If you drive yourself too hard, which you probably did, be sure to release your grip. You have permission to do things that aren’t immediately “useful” and are more enjoyable, fun. In fact, as a human being, you need it.
Lately, the weight of your regrets and past mistakes has dragged you down. There are so many things you wish you had understood earlier and so many things you wish you could have done differently that it’s hard to imagine a way forward. However, if you put in the effort to mend frayed relationships this week, people will be more receptive than you might think. If you do your best not to hide in shame or fear, but to learn and move on, you will be surprised at how much the world opens up to you. You can’t redo the past, but you can change your life right now.
Occasionally your normal anxieties fade, if only for a moment, and you find yourself as you appear to those who love you. Through their eyes, you are caring and courageous; your flaws are more than made up for by all you have to offer. Moments of plain and simple self-love are rare, so when you experience them, as you will this week, don’t let them pass without notice. Remember what that looks like. You can’t banish insecurities permanently, but you can remain certain that you are worthy of love.
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